Thursday, February 26, 2015

Kichkandi

Men need to invent  their  spirits 
To foist  their  fears of the unknown 
On the feminine 
On a woman, specifically,
That he does not understand 
Cannot regulate
As opposed  to the docile one 
Who resides  in
The bangles and potes
He proudly  displays 
On his dashboard 

There  is no such thing
As a male spirit 
That will  suck away
A woman's life
Her joys and her peace
While pretending  to
Seduce  them

That is not  something 
Women need to invent 

Thursday, February 19, 2015

No need to be attached

If you belive
You cannot  trust anyone
And loves never last
You win

Because most people
Will hurt you in some way
So you are  always right

And if not,
Well,
How nice to be proved wrong
For the right reasons

So yes,
If you belive
You cannot  trust anyone
And loves never last
You are always taken care of
People are bound to hurt you
And you are always  protected

Finding yourself in the world outside

Ten years ago i picked her up
Because i had heard i should
And put it down because 
She had not the flamboyance 
Of the sher-o-shayari
That was more to my taste then

It was years before i could appreciate
The brutal  honesty of her words

Not that young  people do not have
The sensitivity to understand  pain
Sometimes  young people
Are the most troubled  of all

Actually, the opposite 
With youth the burdens are so heavy 
That they just cannot see
What lies on their shoulders
And cannot recognize it
When they see someone else
Carrying the samr burden
Even if they are the same thing

Even if emily dickinson
Speaks in your voice 
You cannot see
That the voice  is coming from within

Trial and error

The journalist's method
Of trial and error 
Goes thus

You work for hours
On a person
Trying  to get them to open up
And getting zilch results

And suddenly on the second meeting
You strike a goldmine
And ask one question 
That opens their floodgates

And you worship the question 
Like the key to a buried treasure 
And jump it on the next  person you meet
Right after the introduction 
Only to have them  clam up
Or look at you askance
Or go the whole hog and start yelling
At you for probing too deep

You think you were too abrupt
And the key is to do the whole drill
All over again
But after  three meetigs with the next person
You realize your  treasured  key
Means nothing to them

Because every person has their own key
And there is no recourse  to trial and error  anew every time

Clowns are the loneliest

They say
Those  who make a living 
By making  others  laugh
Are the ones
In need of a laugh

So must  those
Who pursue  secrets
Be in quest  of
Delicate  nurturing
Of their own soul 

Monday, February 16, 2015

What men want

You wonder why a man offers 
A kiss to reconcile
Or a hug or a make-out
And says nothing
About the issue at hand
As if it will solve itself
With a kiss

And then you learn 
That it is because 
That is what he would like

Give a kiss and all anger
Is forgiven

Forgiveness heals

The thing  with  forgiveness  is that
It only heals you
If you arrive at it
With much trouble 
Go through  the whole rigmarole
The denial, the anger 
The disconnect with the outside world
And then arrive at
Compassion
Like an inevitability 
Like succor, like relief
Like blessings

If you  make a habit of it
And are able to forgive 
Murder
At the blink  of an eye

Forgiveness 
Is the same as
Indifference 

Tuesday, February 10, 2015

intoxication

when intoxication nudges
your most guarded secrets
out of you
 
you feel unfaithful
to yourself

because you had not
admitted the secrets
even to yourself
(to your 'true', waking self,
that is)

and so you wonder
which one of you is the 'true' you
the one who guards the secrets
or the one who swims in it

and then you begin to understand

why some people
worship the drink
for it flings away 
inhibitions
like nothing else
and sets you free

and why some others
hate it
for it flings away your
inhibitions
without which you
do not recognize yourself

redemption

is redemption possible
after being used
and abused
and lied to
and manipulated?

indeed it is,
redemption lies in taking control
in ravishing yourself
for yourself

the only problem is
finding enough love
to be able to do so

Intimacy

Only two things make a woman
Feel safe enough
To blurt all her secrets
And it is no wonder that
The first of them is discouraged,
With the hangovers it induces.

And strangely,
The other,
Even without hangovers or liver decay
But instead with the extraordinary power
To relieve all stress
Fatigue
And make a woman happy
Like nothing else
Is also discouraged

Because it also makes a man
Feel safe enough to blurt everything
Because it makes a man
Weak in his own eyes.

What you mean to me

I don't know if I will ever have
the courage to say this to you

Date a girl who dreams

date a girl who dreams.

You will recognize her by the faraway look in her eyes, even when she is doing the most mundane things. 
She is the one whose answers may not really match your questions. 
She is the one who ends up somewhere she never meant to go, because she followed a song there. Or a brightly colored bird. Or a book in a stranger's hands. 
She is the one who comes home with an assortment of weird objects, because she thinks they are cute. or interesting  or wants to do DIY projects with them. 
She is the one who plays with a stray kitten for hours, and sometimes stray iguanas and porcupines, or whatever she finds. She is the ones that kittens follow home.

Date a girl who dreams, because she is the one who can create your dreamland for you, right here, on earth. She is the one who can blow your worries away, like she blows the bubbles from a cheap soap water solution in plastic rings. She is the one who can make an ordinary day special. She is the one whose coffee warms up not just your hands, but your heart and soul. A day with her, lasts in your memory for a lifetime. And a lifetime with her, will pass by like a moment.

If you are attracted by her ethereal presence, smile at her. Let her know, that you know dreams matter, whether or not they come true. Hold her hand, and let her take you wherever her imagination flies. Hold her hand, and let her know that she can fly as high as she wants, because you will not let her get lost. Hold her hand, and hold her close. Close enough for her to see that your eyes hold dreams, dreams of her. Hold her close, and let her know that's where you will be, when she wakes up.

Because if you date a girl who dreams, you date a girl who loves life.
Because her stories create magic. 
Because her presence reminds you of everything you ever wanted.
Because, though she has a faraway look on her face, she will always be close to you.

Because, for you, she will always snap out at a moment's notice, from wherever she is.
Date a girl who dreams, and you will be dating a girl who cares.

Date a girl who dreams, and be prepared to let go of your hold on reality.
Date a girl who dreams, and be ready for the ride of your lifetime!

Maybe she carries her heart on her sleeve. Maybe she hides it behind he big glasses. big clothes. extra big bag. And if she does, you will just have to look. Because she is there, right there, behind the owl glasses. 

You might recognize this girl by the flowers she grows. Or by the poetry she spouts at short notice, because she knows it by heart. You may never have heard of it, but she doesn't exactly care for labels or climb the bandwagon. Or you may know her by the mud color she insists on putting on her walls, though she calls it chocolate, and maybe by the shiny stars she has stuck there.  You might recognize her by the silliest limericks she sends you at midnight. 

But the surest sign of a girl ho dreams, is that she is a girl. Look closely, and you will find, whether or not she fits the list, that every girl is a dreamer. 

Date a girl who dreams, and you will be dating a girl who loves.

Published long ago in Republica
http://theweekrepublica.tumblr.com/post/42573787915/date-a-girl-who-dreams

pursuit of happyness


if only we could spend our lives
in the pursuit of love
the one thing that makes us feel alive
instead of numb
(and not money and status)
we would be much happier beings,
it seems

amour

1.
When you fall asleep
With a smile on your face

5. 
When you will not leave this person
Because the world will break his heart

why we need gods

because we need answers
of things beyond comprehension

because we want to hope
our loved ones are still around us

because we want forgiveness
when the sin is too great
to be forgiven by a mere mortal

because we want to believe
there is somthing greater than us
there is some purpose to life
some method to the madness

because we want to believe
that the world is fair
that those who suffer in it
must have a reason to do so
and those who get the larger share of the cookie
must have paid their dues before

because we want to be grateful
for things that accept no gratitude

Monday, February 2, 2015

Just in case you came by

And didn't say hello to me

I always keep
Your chat window open

(Gone are the days of doors,
Especially  the  physical  ones)

My precious

For you i am
A precious  find

But for me you are precious 
Because you found me