Sunday, November 1, 2020

To be a woman

 Is to believe in 

Two opposite things

At the same time

And to believe them both

To be equally true


This body of a woman

This temple that creates

The miracle of new life

Expands and grows

Beyond its capacity

Enduring pain

Beyond imagination

To birth 

A new life

How can I not believe

That this temple

That does what nothing else can

That gives new life, 

The most 

Valuable thing in the world,

Is not the most sacred

Thing in the entire world


And then again

How can I elevate her

And belittle other bodies

Which have done no wrong

Girls

Who are not yet of age

Women

Who do not want to bear children

Women

Who yearn for children 

But cannot bear them

Women

Who have tried to bear children

And have only lost them

Men (and everyone else)

Who for no fault of theirs

Cannot bear children

Even if they wish to


How can I say

They are any less human

Or any less holy

Than a woman who bears children

Who, at the end of the day,

May be as pious or as sinful

As anyone else

 

And most importantly,

How can  I confine

A woman's value

To a mere body

And overlook

Her personhood

Which goes against

Everything I have always believed


So to be a woman

Is to believe in 

Two opposite things

At the same time

And to believe them both

To be totally true

 

To believe

That the temple of a woman;s body

Which births a new life

Is the greatest thing in the world

And to believe at the same time

That all bodies are equal

And a woman is no less a woman

Because she cannot or will not

Bear children

And that a woman is not 

Greater than any other woman

Just because she gives birth

Thursday, September 17, 2020

Hungry

Come not so close to me, 

she said

This i will not allow

This i will forbid

 

But what can I do, 

he said

I have so many thoughts

So many

all about you


These thoughts, she said

Watch them from afar

Thoughts are just thoughts, 

after all

unless you act on them

Watch the thoughts bubbles form

Keep watching them, 

do no react

And they  will burst on their own

Like bubbles on clear water


I will try, he said 

And so

Whenever he saw her

he simply watched her

And watched himself wathing her

From his mind's eyes 

He saw that he wanted to touch her

But this he did not do

 

See, he said, 

I di dnot try to touch you

I did not even come over

to talk to you

 

Yes, that is true, she said

But then why do you

Follow me with your eyes

Like the sunflower follows the sun

 

This I will not do, 

he told her

And the next time they met, 

He passed the test

 

I saw you passing and whizzing

From the corner of my eyes

And yet, did not look at you, 

he said


That is true, she said

But then, why, when I speak

Do you stop listening

To everyone else around you?


He bit his tongue

This I should not do, 

he said to himself


You spoke, 

But I continued listening

to the dear people around me,

he said


That is true, she said

But why did you spill your tea

And drop your books

When I spoke

 

He clenched his jaws

This shall not happen again, 

he vowed
 

You see, I held on

To everything I had 

Even when you were nearby, 

he said to her

I clenched my fists so tight

 

Perhaps too tight, she said

Is that what

Led you to tremble

When I passed you?

 

He cast his eyes down, 

And said, from now on,

You will not know

How I feel

You will not see

The slightest nod from me

 

He kept his hands to himself

When she was near

Carefully putting down

Whatever he held

Keeping his attentions

Firmly fixed on the 

Face and voice before him

Never even lifting an eyebrow

When she was around

He would not speak

For fear his voice would crack

Even taking care to keep 

His mouth firmly closed

So that his trembling lip

Would not give him away

See, he said, 

See

There is nothing 

For you to see


She nodded

And turned away


And he wished 

She would have asked

One more question

So where did it go?

The words he would have spoken

The smile that would have 

lit up his face

His senses that would have

leaped up at the first sight of her

His eyes that would have 

Followed her everywhere

Where did they go?

 

Where did it go?

He wanted her to ask 

The heart that would have 

Exhausted itself 

Trying to find what pleases you 

Where did they all go? 

Since they could not 

Go where they wanted to?

 

I still startle

When I hear you speak

Out of my sight

He wanted to say

You eyes, and my ears, 

and all my attention

Are still yours

But, if you ask me to listen

To the person in front of me

That I will do, too

so I do both things

Now my voice does not crack

But my heart does

From the effort of 

Keeping my voice silent

My hands don't tremble any more

But my very soul does 

From your nearness

And my mind

That you asked me to watch

For bubbles

And wait for them to burst

That mind of mine

Is so full of bubbles

Of your thoughts, 

And none of them burst,

But keep growing 

Every day

Until I have 

Nowhere to keep them....

the calm

 As a storm rages within

I stay perfectly calm within

Unable to react to anything

(In other words, dead)


I wonder if it is 

The storm before the calm

When life my fall into place


Or the calm before the storm

When all hel breaks loose

And I am jerked out of 

This stupor, willy nilly


Holding on, sewing together

Hoping that the storm within

Does not make my skin

Burst open at the seams


Who knows if the storm will pass

Who knows if the floods will abae


Every day is an unbearable wait

For something that will change this life

 

It is so difficult to take

Even the next step

When the air seems

Denser than water

And I am wading

Against strong currents

 

And yet, 

Finding the courage

Every dya

To just get through

Just one more day.....

 


निकाला


काश छ नीलो तर

धर्ती छ अँध्यारो

राप छ मरुभूमीको तर

लागेको छ कुहिरो

शीतल छ बतास तर

तनमा छ गो

 

हिँड्दैछु जन्मभूमितिर

तर किन लाग्दैछ

म हरारहेछु

 

एक पछि अर्को

पछि अर्को गर्दै

बितिरहेछन् यहाँ

दिन महिना वर्षहरु

 

मैले ँखा देखिन

घामको उज्यालोमा

मैले बाटो बिराएँ

सधैं हिँड्ने गोरेटोमा

म लड्खडाएँ

सुन्दर सीधा यो राजमार्गमा

 

बाधा अड्चन अवरोध

केही नभएको यो बाटो

पुग्न त मेरै ँगनमा पुग्छ

तर पनि मला थाहा छैन

यो बाटोले मला कहाँ लाँदैछ

 

कहाँ छ त्यो धर्तीको स्वर्ग

जसला म सपनामा देखिरहन्छु

 

एक पछि अर्को

पछि अर्को गर्दै

बितिरहेछन् यहाँ

दिन महिना वर्षहरु

Tuesday, September 8, 2020

Concrete sins

 

The rains fell relentlessly on her house, 

She ran to take shelter in caves, 

And watched the house made of mud

Dissolve in water, drop by drop

As if it was made of sugar

And the sweet water

Took everything with it, 

every strip of dry cloth she had

And every grain of food


She slumped back into herself, 

Closed her eyes, and prayed

If only I had a house

That no water could get into

That could have a warm fire blazing

No matter what blizzards howl outside

That would stand still

Even in the calm after the storm


You can have that house, 

Said her goddess

But it will destroy

A little bit of the earth


The earth,  it is meant to be 

Renewed every season

What the rains wash away

It would have deposited on river banks

And the mud would have gone back to earth

Grown up in flowers and fruits and trees

And in the place of what you had lost

you would have created anew


But this house that you ask for,

It will not be destroyed 

It will stand there

And stand and stand

The waters that would have 

flowed over it

Will have to flow around it

When you are gone

The house will not be 

Destroyed and rebuilt, 

as it should

But it will exist for 

far longer than a season

And when it finally dies

As all things should

It will not come back to life

As all living beings would

It will exist, in hard and brittle

Concrete bits and pieces 

That nothing can grow out of

That will not go back into the earth

Wherever they go, 

they will take death with them

For renewal every season

Is the ritual of life

And this house of yours 

Will flout that rule

It will be an aberration

On the map of the earth


The earth is large, mother

And I am but a tiny one, a nothing

You can grant me as much earth

As one point of a pin

So that I can be safe

In one lifetime

What is one point of a pin, 

To the great world?

And what is one lifetime

In the great flow of time?

Nothing, mother, nothing


And so the house was made

Not by borrowing from the earth 

And the river and the Forests

Mud and stones and wood and water

That would have gone back into them

But by hacking and plundering 

And accumulating and stealing

Sand and marble and other things

That would never go back

Where they came from

That would never 

grow anything ever again

That would, even when destroyed

Continue to hinder and obstruct

The rains and the winds and 

Seeds and little saplings

Every item a plunder

Every step a crime 

A sin against the mother earth


And yes she was happy

To be safe for a lifetime


It is just as big as a pin point to you, 

Mother earth, 

She said

And the pin point is nothing,

Nothing, 

In someone as great

And munificent as you


Can you not give your daughter 

A little point of a pin?


Yes daughter, 

But don’t you see?

I have so many daughters…

Cried mother earth


But she shut the doors of her house

And went inside to warm up

By the blazing fire


***


And she continued to ask 

From her goddess

And from mother earth

Which were maybe one and the same

Things that would 

Make her safe for a lifetime

And leave a legacy

Of death and destruction


***

Will you fill up every inch of me, child?

The mother asked with tears in her eyes

Will you give me no space to breathe at all?

Will you not think for a moment

Of the sin against your mother?


Her daughter’s jaw was set

And her eyes were fiery

Plenty for some and poverty for others, 

Isn’t that a greater sin, mother?

Will you deny me what 

You gave to your other daughters?


Monday, September 7, 2020

हात

 पहाडको टुप्पोबाट

    झरनासँग खस्दै

चट्टानहरुसँग ठोक्किँदै

    लहरहरुले उफार्दै

भुमरीमा फँस्दै

    कहिले डुब्दै

कहिले निसासिँदै

    बेपरवाह बाढीमा

बग्दै गरेको मानिस

    म नै थिएँ


समाउने परालको 

    त्यान्द्रो पनि नहुँदा

तिमीे हात दिन्छाै भने

    म समाउने नै छु

फेरी पनि

    त्यो क्षण दोहोर्याउने 

माैका मिल्यो भने

    पटक पटक

हरेक पटक

    म तिम्रै

हात समाउने छु

Saturday, August 22, 2020

desires

Are not just for the young

Here is to learning that
Desires never end

Your heart never ceases
To seek moments of leap
To seek that which excites it

Even if it has everything

Frustrations
Explosions
Are not just for the innocent

i knocked

And you didn't  answer

Friday, August 21, 2020

sufficient

What I crave
Is your sight and scent
The way you speak
The way your eyes glitter
The way you read
The way your listen

What i crave is 
Your very soul

But for now
Photos
Shall suffice


Wednesday, August 5, 2020

fuss

It is your coming
It is your outrage on their behalf
It is your mere words
And your hovering and buzzing around
That makes them happy

And all along you thought 
It was in the meticulous tracking
Of medicines

Saturday, July 25, 2020

the one thing

Life is everywhere around you
Sprouting forth from
Big pots and little cups
Unused helmets and broken bottles
Life leaps and bubbles from you
Struggling to get out of
Its containments

In the warmth of your embrace
Fledgelings find safety
under your mindful gaze
Ever careful, ever watchful
No one will go astray
No one will stumble
And if they do,
you will catch them

Whatever you touch 
Flourishes and glows

For you nourish it
With all the sustained energy
Of a river that flows 
Down from a mountain
And flows and flows
Into a deep lake
At the base of the hils

Every day the lake grows
Inch by inch by inch
until it is straining
Cracking here and there
Threatening to burst
And sweep away everything 
That lies beneath it
It must trickle out
In streams and rivulets
so that it doesn't explode

And then when you say
There is this one thing 
That bothers me

I know
Exactly what you mean

You have everything to give
And nowhere to put it
And invent new receptacles
Every day.....

Friday, July 17, 2020

the essence of love

When you are young you think
The essence of love is attraction

The way your heart spins
When you see someone
The way you anticipate for hours
A short meeting with your crush
And the way your mind and body
Melt after that meeting
Leaving your head spinning
Dropping objects, running into things
Unable to concentrate 
On anything else

You might be forgiven
For thinking this is love

But that is far too easy
For such a thing as love

Love is when your head 
Has stopped spinning
And maybe,
Instead of giving you
So much energy
He gives you only lethargy
And still you stay

For love is not
Leaving at the first sight of lethargy
Or anger, or disinterest
Or bitter words
Anyone can love when all is well
And it takes true love to 
Continue to make an effort
When the rose tint is gone.....

Love is peeling his skin
Bit by bit by one tiny bit
Carefully so that he doesn't
Wake up
And then putting it back together
Bit by bit
To see what exactly he is made of
To find out exactly what
Gives him so much energy
And what takes it away
What makes him smile in sleep
And what makes him jerk awake
and then doing the things
That make him smile
One at a time

It is lifelong, for love lasts
It is constant, for people change
So the skin you peeled back yesterday
For a peek inside
Will have no regrown
And the meat inside it
Will have completely renewed itself
So that every time you peel it back
It is a fresh new thing
It is arduous, for it means keeping
All the information in your head
At all times,
and accumulating more
As it occurs
It may or may not be rewarding
For despite all your efforts
There is no guarantee 
None at all
That it will work
And yet, if it truly is love
And not a passing fancy
It must be done
For evermore....






Friday, July 3, 2020

the origin of love

Maybe i had hoped that
You would love me
For who I am

And i guess that means
The romanticized idea of self

Of how talented or inteligent
Or kind or pretty I am
Or whatever it is
That you find 
attractive in me

apparently, that is not so
apparently, these things are 
Just for teenage fantasies

And love does not spring 
From these things

But the origin of love
Can only be love

An act of kindness
A reaching out
That says
You have noticed me

Why do you love me
I may ask

It is because you love me
You will say

And what if I stop loving you
I may ask
Will you stop loving me too

But I will always love you
You will say
Remembering that 
You once loved me......



Sunday, June 7, 2020

lines

I see them coming together
Not at once
But gradually, 
Strand by strand
Taking an entire lifetime
To become one

I wonder if I should be sad
That they take so long
And wil never feel
completely together
Will continue to have
Jarring revelations
Until the end
Or happy
That there are new things
To discover happilyy
And moments of revelation 
As the bond grows deeper
Until the very end